The church really ought to be talking about something else. It would be a better thing if the church's last debate before it expired was something other than same sex relationships. But we just can't seem to let it go. The archbishop elect of Glasgow, on the very day he is elected is embroiled in another debate about it and now we'll be discussing it, fearing it, worrying about it till we are blue in the face all the way up to 2015 when we might have a legal form of same sex marriage in Scotland whcih is supported by all the main parties in Scotland.
I'd rather spill as much sweat over nuclear weapons, a more ethical banking code, less money spent on a sport showcase, giving homes to homeless, feeding the hungry, having policies that are fair and not stacked towards those with money or power. These are fairly traditional debates the church ought to be involved in that would change the balance of the world. Homosexuality and relationships won't. What I hear people say when they speak of it is mainly centred on 'taste' and 'decency' rather than ethics and morals. That's not a debate, that's closer to prejudice or fear of what is unknown.
Will the church ever allow a congregation to make up their own minds about what kind of relationships they find speak of God's love and generosity towards each other or will it continue to try, as it seems to have done recently, to prescribe what everyone ought to think about a particular issue so that if you break the 'rule' you get disciplined? There is a longer tradition that the church does not prescribe things so that people are allowed liberality of opinion and aren't disciplined because the church knows it does not always (often?) get it right and you can't say this view is right for all time.
It is such a terrible state to be in when the church will be known for this debate alone and all the good work it does do and has done in the past is forgotten and ignored.